When quitting, too many people try to disregard any thoughts about marijuana. As if, by avoiding or running from these thoughts that they will magically disappear. That usually isn’t the case with drugs of abuse. After multiple attempts at quitting, I have had experiences where I felt like I wanted to pull my hair out, and others that were relatively easy. The easier times came toward the end as I got better at quitting.
The emotional attachment we have to marijuana is part of the problem. This is perfectly normal. Most people still have an unhealthy attachment to pot when quitting. Otherwise, they probably wouldn’t be making the attempt to quit. It was when I quit ignoring, and then ultimately fighting, these random thoughts I was having about marijuana that it got easier and more comfortable.
Let me explain. Thoughts about pot are very natural when you are trying to quit. How can it not be? It has been a huge part of your life for quite some time. However, most people make the mistake of ignoring the thoughts as they happen. In fact, they really aren’t that bad, at first, because we are still riding on the emotional resolve to quit. And then comes the next thought…and then the next…and so on.
At the beginning, one little thought, by itself, isn’t enough to convince anyone to start smoking again. And these are really easy to ignore. However, after ignoring hundreds of these thoughts, they begin to accumulate, causing us to begin to fight or struggle with them. Once the fighting begins, you place so much energy into the thoughts that they come more rapidly, eventually smothering us to the point that, by the time you realize it, there is bong magically attached to your mouth. That makes me uncomfortable even thinking about it!
But, what if we didn’t ignore or fight with these thoughts, and instead took the time to analyze them when they appear? Taking the time to recognize the lie behind what your “other-self” is telling you to do and remembering your “reasons
for quitting,” allows you to discard the thought when it arrives. In fact, I would stay as emotionally unattached while analyzing these thoughts. Analyze them as the “non-smoker” and not the “pot-smoker.” You are two different people.
Our reasons for quitting are always valid, but we have a tendency to forget them when we begin to get uncomfortable with our decision. To help with this, I would create a card that had all of your reasons for quitting and carry that with you. When the thoughts arrive, review the card to help remind you of your “why.” We are currently creating a template for the Secret Addiction website for people to use, but an index card would be perfect. Use both sides if necessary.
The point about all of this is to make sure the thoughts and cravings you experience do not take overtake you. Either way, whether you struggle or not, the thoughts eventually begin to dissipate. But little techniques, such as this, make it more comfortable and can increase your success of winning.