Throughout life, each one of us will encounter obstacles, or roadblocks, that may seem to impede our growth as an individual, or keep us from something we may want. In some instances, the obstacles could be life’s way of saying, “take a different direction.” For many of us, however, we have been taught to simply break through the barrier allowing nothing to get in our way of the thing that we are desiring.
In other instances, the obstruction in front of us could be there as an opportunity for personal or professional growth. In fact, that is exactly how I view the addiction to marijuana. I have been very clear that in terms of chemical addictions, marijuana is “low on the totem pole”, so to speak. Marijuana addicts are never caught stealing to obtain their drug, on average they easily maintain steady jobs, and in most cases, lead somewhat normal lives.
So, what’s the big deal? Although there are many answers to that question, the one most appropriate for this article is because you are not living your life to its fullest potential. That may seem like a somewhat innocuous and insignificant statement, but take a moment to think about it. Of all the millions upon millions of opportunities and decisions throughout your life, approaching them behind a cloud of smoke, can be very limiting to your growth as an individual.
It is the small incremental steps throughout life that take us to where we are intended to be. Any addiction, will eventually begin taking those steps for you eventually diminishing your true destiny of becoming that person you know you could have become. That, in my opinion, is worse than any crime you can commit to maintain a drug addiction. That is why I wrote The Secret Addiction.
A multitude of people will attempt to quit marijuana today. Unfortunately, many of them will encounter this endeavor with a fighters mindset. This type of attitude could possibly be a path to failure. To merely wrestle against your habits can be very difficult and frustrating, and eventually exhausting to the point you surrender.
Dr. Larry Markson, author of Talking to Yourself is not Crazy, recently wrote an article that eloquently stated, ” Struggle and strife can find no foothold when confronted with mildness because conflict can only exist when fed by two opposing forces”. I have found this statement to be very accurate during my many failed attempts to quit smoking marijuana.
Letting go of our fighters mentality to begin approaching this, and other areas of your life, with a more gentle nature will increase your chances of succeeding. This is truly one of those obstacles in life that has been laid before you as an opportunity for tremendous growth.
Dr. Markson ended by saying, “Gentleness must be practiced, as we are inadvertently encouraged to act competitive in certain phases of our lives. At first, your established habits may make being truly gentle challenging. Yet after a time, if you commit to consciously applying gentleness to all areas of your life, you will find that you begin to act gently habitually. Your patterns of thought and behavior become ever more peaceful and you will discover that you encounter far less impassable resistance on your individual journey.”