One of our members on the forum is approaching his 30 days of sobriety from both marijuana and alcohol. He is doing a great job and has made some amazing life changes in such a short period of time. Honestly, I think it’s time for a small dose of adversity in his life. Really? Why would I even say that?
In The Secret Addiction chapter about the one month mark, I speak somewhat vicariously about experiencing a little adversity in our lives. People who are in the beginning stages of quitting marijuana, and after the first week or two of the initial withdrawal symptoms, are usually loving life, reconnecting with family and friends, and becoming more productive professionally and personally. This is such an awesome feeling! That is until something stressful comes knocking at their door. Their newfound sobriety and positive emotions quickly dissipate, and marijuana quickly enters the picture again.
This is actually an extremely important test of your resolve to live life without trying to escape from it. Learning how to control your emotions and deal with the definite stresses that life brings to us is necessary to staying sober. Being able to lay your head on your pillow at night and fall asleep while the tornado of life is raging on the outside, is a precious commodity.
Many of the stresses people deal with are self-created. Do everything possible to avoid this scenario. The best example is financial stress. Most of the time, through reckless decision making and overspending, we create this problem and it is a tough one to deal with. Life will bring its own set of stressors without any assistance from you.
Actually, stress in moderate amounts is good for the mind and body. Just as the stress of exercise builds muscle, mental stress builds strength and character when overcome rationally and successfully. Although it never feels good while going through the process, after the situation passes, and you have effectively handled and managed circumstance appropriately, in the end you will always feel more powerful. It is when we run or try to escape it, like we do when smoking marijuana, that it leaves us with a self-defeated emotion and a loss of self-esteem.
Marijuana, or cannabis, is the great escape for many people. Its seemingly innocuous effect on our lives helps us cope on the surface, but quietly and conspicuously, it is stealing the necessary refining process that we are all unavoidably subjected to in life. There is a Bible verse that says “salt is refined by fire.” The meaning is pretty obvious. We are the salt and the stresses of life is the fire. We need to stop running from the fire, but rather learn how to manage it so that it doesn’t burn us permanently.